People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway.
If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
Give the world your best and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway.
For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It never was between you and them anyway.
-Mother Teresa

Sunday, May 11, 2008

Mother dear

I saw this Q&A thing for mother's to fill out and I thought it might be interesting to read in a few years or to have my girls read it when they are mothers.

1. What time do my kids wake up? Right now around 7am. Still early, but it's not what it was thank goodness.

2. On a good night, what time do my kids go to sleep? Before daylight savings it was 7:30. Now it is all screwed up. More like 9:30.....d@$% daylight savings time!!!!!

3. How long have I been a mom? 2 years and counting!

4. How old was I when I became a mom? Barely 25 years

5. What is my favorite kid show? Wonder Pets

6. Least favorite kid show? It's a toss up between Teletubbies and Barney.

7. Favorite chore? Reading with my children. I know it's not a household chore but it's a mother's chore and much more important than cleaning toilets or sweeping floors. Remember this next time you come to my house and it's less then tidy!

8. Favorite meal to cook? Hmm......which one is the easiest? Well, I actually like making Tortilla Soup. Easy and really tasty.

9. What's the meal cooked most often? Burritos and quesadillas

10. What is your kids favorite meal? Regan loves chicken and Sophie eats anything we're eating.

11. What is my favorite thing that Jason does with the kids? Everything Jason does with the kids. I love that he is willing to do anything for, change diapers, bathe them, etc. He is the best dad around.

12. What are the 5 things that make me smile while being a mom? Listening to Regan sing. Watching Sophie dance. The funny things Regan says. Seeing them learn new things and giving me and eachother kisses.

13. Where do I want to take my kids someday? I want to take Regan to the zoo so badly! She loves animals and I know she would LOVE the zoo!!! If we move to SLC I am getting a season pass to the zoo. I wish SG had one.

14. When was the last time Jason and I went out without the kids? A few weeks ago we went to the temple.

15. One thing you said you'd never do as a mom? I don't remember specifically, but maybe I said that I would never let my house get really messy....hahahaha.

16. Favorite past time with my kids? Singing

17. Favorite quality that my mom has? Patience and unending service/thought/concern for everyone around her.

18. Advice for new moms? Take time for yourself. If you're drained and beaten down you'll be useless to your kids. Also, find some friends. It's good to be able to get out of the house with other moms and realize that you are not alone in the things you are going through.

You know, motherhood has it's ups and downs. At the end of the day I try to look back and find one moment or two that were great moments with my kids. I didn't realize that sometimes it would be difficult to find those moments, but they help me to focus on the positive aspects of motherhood and not the negative ones, like Sophie crying all day or Regan peeing all over the house all day.

Being a mother is a journey, not a landmark (as I once thought). Which brings me to my next thought. Along this thorny, rose laden journey, I hope that I can evolve into the mother that my mom is today. She does everything with her children and grandchildren in mind. I hope that I can have as strong a testimony and desire to do right as she does. I hope that I can instill in my children the same love and dependence on the gospel that she has in me. Thanks for this mom. I don't know what I'd do without you.


Kristin said...

Kristal I loved this! You are such a great "real" mom! Meaning you are confident and yourself...Something that your kids will so learn from. I look up to you so much, and I learn a ton from you. I hope with all my heart you will be joining me this fall in SLC.

KaNdRa and JaReD said...

Ahhh. I can't wait to be a mom. Maybe you can give me some advice ;) That is a great picture of you guys.

Catherine said...

I love tortilla soup, too...easy and delicious! I've decided as a mom that I need to simplify things, including at dinner time. Then I'm not as mean and bossy to my kids, while spending WAY too long making dinner! Kristal, you're such a great mom, I really mean that! Soph and Regs are SO lucky to have you!

Skousen Seven said...

Ditto to everyones comments!! You are a terrific mom, you could teach me a thing or two. It was so fun being with you last weekend! I got my blog working again. Check it out. Love ya tons!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

Happy Mothers Day! Late I know...but when you're a mom, you get lucky if you can take a shower! LOL. I agree with your advice and I'm fairly new at this!

Matt, Meggan & Ty said...

Hi Kristal...I'm so excited you found my blog! I think about you guys a lot in St. George. I really miss that ward...are you still in the 9th ward? Your girls are getting so big...they are adorable!! Are you still living in La Venita?

Ashley said...

Such a sweet post. I really appreciate your thoughts on motherhood.

Teanne said...

Hey Kristal. Thanks for your comments on my blog. I am proud of my kids- I just think the world of them. :) That is crazy that my parents happened to go on the same cruise your parents did! It's not like they go on a lot of cruises! What a coincedence! I admire your mom too- she is a sweet lady. And I can tell you are a great mom too! I love your advice to moms- it is true. It is so nice to KIT with you now!

Jason & Kelli West said...

you are an amazing person. You are so sweet! I'm so happy you and I are friends. Thanks for being such a great example to us all!!

The Hansens said...

what a great post kristal! You definatly have all of the important things in perspective! Loved it!

Dawna said...

Thanks so much Kristal, for your kind words about me. I certainly don't feel worthy of them but I'm glad at least that I headed you and your sisters in the right direction. You are all awesome moms and I couldn't ask for any greater blessing as a mother. It makes me feel that in spite of all my weaknesses and shortcomings, I must have done a few things right. I'm so thankful that Heavenly Father blessed us with each other. Love Mom